Queer or Kinky? Labels.

I am not quite sure which really explains my sexual orinantion. I am not sure kink can be used in that way but it is definitely a label. I feel a lot of people feel the need to have that fill in the blank label. About the fill in the blank, I don’t like to be singularly labeled. I don’t think many labels actually fully define who I am sexually. Sexuality overall is fluid and evolving.

There is such a list of labels that people give and make for themselves and others. Kinky, gay, bi, straight, Dom, sub, slave, Mistress, Master, and those are only the general ones most everyone knows. There is so many more dealing with gender or how you persoanlly deal with your kink. Really I could do a full post with just a list which perhaps I should do with my own idea of what these labels mean. I think that would be ever changing since my idea of what things mean change as I learn more.

As for myself I don't like to really label.That being said. I think I am a switch, but in that I am a sub to some select people. I have really found there has to be a particular type of spark to make me want to sub to someone. Within that there are even levels which I think may be controlled by my level in trust and desire. I really like to bottom, to have things done to me. I am Not a slave. That is something that I can't really wrap my erotic imagination around. I am a top to some, as I do really enjoy hearing and feeling a lover orgasm under my touch because of me. But not a mistress, I don't want to own someone in that way. I may have leanings into being a dom, but the sort of caring type that demands obedience. So overall I think I could call myself a kinkster. I often find myself using the word switch because it lets on that I do like the power play dynamics of it all.