List of amazing helpful links and resources.

Websites:

• Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.
• Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.
• DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.
• Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.
• Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.
• Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.
• Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.
• The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

• 10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)
• Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)
• Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)
• How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

• Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
• Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)
• How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)
• Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

• Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)
• Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)
• Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
• Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)
• S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

• BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)
• BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)
• Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)
• If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)
• What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

• Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)
• Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

• A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)
• Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)
• An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)
• Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)
• Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)
• Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)
• How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants(Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)
• What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
• What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

• 10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
• A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
• Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)
• Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)
• Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)
• Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)
• Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)
• What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

• BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer
• Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
• Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison
• Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison
• Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison
• Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
• Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams
• Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel
• Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel
• Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel
• Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel
• Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
• Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon
• SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
• The Control Book by Peter Masters
• The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren
• The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
• The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
• The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
• This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters
• Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker