List of amazing helpful links and resources.

Websites:

• Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.
• Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.
• DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.
• Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.
• Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.
• Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.
• Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.
• The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

• 10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)
• Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)
• Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)
• How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

• Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
• Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)
• How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)
• Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)
• Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)
• Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

• Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)
• Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)
• Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)
• Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)
• S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

• BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)
• BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)
• Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)
• If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)
• What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

• Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)
• Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)
• Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

• A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)
• Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)
• An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)
• Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)
• Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)
• Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)
• How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)
• Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants(Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)
• What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
• What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

• 10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)
• A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)
• Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)
• Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)
• Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)
• Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)
• Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)
• Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)
• What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

• BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer
• Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
• Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison
• Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison
• Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison
• Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
• Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams
• Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel
• Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel
• Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel
• Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel
• Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera
• Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon
• SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
• The Control Book by Peter Masters
• The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren
• The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
• The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.
• The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
• This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters
• Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

Daddies? Little Girls?

Hey there blog... look I am not dead.

I still sort of struggle with how littles are sometimes viewed by greater kink and I am not fully out nor really fully organized with my indemnity in it. There are people who know I enjoy playing like a little girl but not everyone.

How does being a little make me feel/think?-I am usually more relaxed because I only really act like one when I feel safe and loved. I enjoy feeling childish and a little bratty. I get to act out in the ways I would never do in my day to day. Overall in my real life I am pretty put together and am the one who takes care of everyone and everything.  Growing up I was the oldest and was the adult very early on. I feel like being a little releases me for the stress of being the best and fixing everything, because I know I will be taken care of. That is sort of a big deal to me.

I also like the idea of Daddy/little girl and find it very different in idea from daddy/daughter like thoughts and play. Its this weird mix of love and play but also the idea of old school leather Daddy and his boy. (only I am a girl and am a cis-girl) I have always been drawn to that dynamic and my play has always been a mix of that a being treated like that and being treated a little kid depending on what we are doing.  I really don’t like the way of thinking of Daddy/daughter play. That’s a taboo that grosses me out, and it seems from what I have read to be less about consent than I would like. I mean I like playing out con-non-con sometimes too but the incest feeling of it bothers me too much.

As for the difference on what is shown in public I think that really depends on how well you know those public people. I would act radically different at say a flea party that I would at a friend’s house. I am not sure you are meaning about the way people act to others when they have those rolls. I don’t think people act all that different unless that’s their game. Example if  a couple has protocol you can tell that’s what they want to show, if not then they still may have that dynamic but just don’t show it in the same way. Same with Daddies and their Girls if their game is to show certain acts that make them both happy or wet  (like teasing a little about something to make them squirm or a girl begging and bothering her daddy to do something) then you can tell that is their dynamic, but you can still have a Daddy/girl dynamic and not have it readily read by others. A lot of the actions that happen between this particular type of couple happens with all types of Dom/sub relationships.

I am rarely made uncomfortable unless there are sharp things involved, I am worried about the consent, or its just too violent for my taste (thug play).  I have been surprised a couple of times by things but I have not really gone to any Big/little get togethers. 

Jaaneman

pronunciation | (jahn-eh-mahn)
submitted by | serenfourskscript | जानेमन Hindi, جان ِ من Urdu

Saw this today on http://nudityandnerdery.tumblr.com/

I love this. I wish I could start using this in my day to day life. 
Perfect. 

Ever just want to be a puppy?

Sometimes I want to do some puppy play. I want to be lead around with a leash. Treated like something that is an animal and not an animal. This has been a reacurring masturbation fantasy for years. One of the first full fledged one with plots and themes. I used to make a collar for myself because it make me hot, out of things like legos because then I could say it was a necklace if caught. I like this picture for so many reasons. The hair is like mine!, kinda. I like the heavy looking leash, cuffs and collar. I like the way her top is made that make her boobs so happy! Not to mention the legin thing. It set the whole thing in a dystopian future word.  I like how the tail and ears are either part or not of her. It  is such a pretty picture and gives me so many stories. 

Update from me.

Hello blog,
      Sorry its been so long. Hrm so much has happened, where to start. Well I guess the biggest is that I broke up with Daddydom. It happened in early January a week before the big hotel party. I sort of knew it was going to happen. Before Christmas I was home alone and siting playing on the internet. I stumbled across Daddydoms blog. I knew that he kept a Tumblr and it has a smattering of pictures with Daddy girl things in it. I had assumed they were for me. Turns out no. They were for his now current sub. Whom he had been chatting with online for months with. See I kind of knew about her, he had told me a little and I asked if I should be threatened. He said no, that is was mostly for masturbation. Which is totally fine with me. But it turns out that no he was doing the Daddy/girl thing with her, and he never told me. I was devastated, I could not stop crying for days.  It was nice that I had a couple days off because I would start sobbing for no real reason. I tried to convince myself it was an accident, that he would not really want to hurt me. When Christmas was over I texted him and said we needed to meet, that I had something important to tell him. He said "I figured we would." I cried. I met him at the restaurant and was shaking. I am very good at hiding it but I was hurt. I knew that this conversation was either the end or a serious change in who we were. We sat down, ordered food and I tried to calmly pour tea. I pulled myself together and turned to him. I asked if he broke up with me and didn't tell me. He just said, Yes. It was like someone actually hit me. He said that he didn't want to hurt me, that he still cared for me but he wanted to try monogamy with this girl. I still have this strange feeling he said that only because he was bored with me. That I somehow lost my ability to be right for him. He told me that he did not want to tell me till he met her. That without telling me he went out of the state to see her. He said he think he loves her. I was blown, but I smiled and ate my food. I nodded. I told him calmly that I was hurt. That it would be a while before I was ok. That I did not approve of him dating a 18 year old no matter how mature he though she was. That a 30 year difference is not that part that mattered it was her age. But that I was just really hurt. I have not talked to him since. I mean to. I want to. But I can't each time I think about it, I cry. I had to take down the cards I had in my room from him. I know it will get better someday. I am just not there yet.

I want this picture of me. Please!

I love the composition of this picture. The start plainness of it. The plain lines. The easy colours. Also I love her hair and the look on her face. I would really love to have this picture of me. Please and thank you.  

tumblr?

Should I use tumblr instead of bloging?

Pretty Pony

I honestly just love the art of this. The face, body and hair! I like the underbra or exposed boobs bra, I have two outfits like it.  I look adorable and sexy. I am not sure if I like the bottom part but I like the idea of it on the drawing. Also Love the gag! A nice bit with what looks like a head attachment. Plus the look in her eyes is just so yummy. That's all for now. I really should be working on grad school applications.

Not dead. Also new want!

Are these not the most amazing thing! I need these n my body.

WISH LIST (always on update)

Things I REALLY want!

Batman Black Lace-up bikini (it glows in the dark!)

http://www.torrid.com/torrid/Intimates/Panties//Batman+Black+Lace-Up+Bikini-533580.jsp

Ruffle Garter Belt with Ribbon 

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13357-plus-size-ruffle-garter-belt-with-ribbon-garter-belts.aspx -OWN IT!~ 12/01/12

Nude And Black Lace And Piping Shaping Slip

http://www.torrid.com/torrid/Intimates/Shapewear//Nude+And+Black+Lace+And+Piping+Shaping+Slip-594565.jsp ON ORDER!!! (06/23/12) Bought! Pictures to follow 

Lace Pumps

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/Plus-Size-Lingerie/p-373-plus-size-satin-lace-pumps-shoes.aspx

Savoir Faire Stretch Lace Garter Belt

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-14516-plus-size-savoir-faire-stretch-lace-garter-belt-garter-belts.aspx

This one next.--->Short Cinderella Petticoat

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-14820-plus-size-short-cinderella-petticoat-petticoats-knickers.aspx

Lust Lace Garter Tank with Ribbon

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13344-plus-size-love-lust-lace-garter-tank-with-ribbon-lingerie.aspx Own it! 01/23/13 Metronerd bought it for me for my Birthday. 

                                                             
Garter Belt with Lace Heart

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13388-plus-size-garter-belt-with-lace-heart-garter-belts.aspx

Things I would like.

Parisian Style Floor Length Skirt

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/Plus-Size-Lingerie/p-255-plus-size-parisian-style-floor-length-skirt-default.aspx

Victorian Bustle Skirt

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/Plus-Size-Lingerie/p-12076-plus-size-victorian-bustle-skirt-apparel.aspx

Caged Back Plus Size Panty

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-12030-plus-size-caged-back-panty-panties.aspx

Halter Chemise 3 Piece Set

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13816-plus-size-3-piece-halter-chemise-with-stretch-lace-cups-and-side-panels-lingerie.aspx

Short All Over Stretch Lace Robe

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13614-plus-size-short-all-over-stretch-lace-robe-robes.aspx

Trumpet Tulle Skirt

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-11239-plus-size-trumpet-tulle-skirt-apparel.aspx

Cuban Heel Sheer Lycra Thigh Highs

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-272-plus-size-cuban-heel-sheer-lycra-thigh-highs-hosiery.aspx

Things that I want but are too expensive.

Vivienne Steel Boned Underbust Corset

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13038-plus-size-vivienne-steel-boned-underbust-corset-leather-patent.aspx

Scarlett Steel Boned Corset

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/p-13421-plus-size-scarlett-steel-boned-corset-corsets-bustiers.aspx

Bellatrix Steel Boned Leather Corset

http://www.hipsandcurves.com/Plus-Size-Lingerie/p-11366-plus-size-bellatrix-steel-boned-leather-corset-leather-patent.aspx

Little things.

Sometimes its the little things that really boost myself esteem. Make me feel sexy, desired and loved.

"mmm you smell good, mumble.. I like the smell of your sweat." When my daddydom woke up next to me. He was very tired and sleepy. I was very awake, and had been for a while. I was just enjoying being next to him. Feeling him close, smelling him and feeling held close.

I have always been insecure about my smell. Its the little things that me me shocked at how loved I am.

Baths.

Baths are so very awesome. I am sitting in my apartment with my big purple robe on relaxing. I had all these ideas in the bath and now I am too lazy to.

Me.

“Smart girls are the over thinkers, the insecure ones, the different ones. They know what the real world is like. They analyze every little thing in life. Why? To avoid getting hurt. To find happiness. They stay up at night trying to think about every possible situation to get through all the problems. They think too much. They trust fewer people. Their insecurity proves their respect toward themselves. Of course they try to live away from a drama-filled life. Smart girls know their worth. Now those are the ones worth keeping by your side.”
— Unknown

To be desired.

I was making out with my Daddydom and I shuddered. Not in that "oh no"  way. But in that way that my body does sometimes when I am so turned on I don't know what to do. When I am about to orgasm. When I am wet and wanting and begging for more. When its like I am so aroused my body does not how to react. Its not something I can control. It just happens. He looked at me with this fire of want in his eyes. I know that seems silly but really he has this intense look sometimes, especially when he hurts me. He told me that he loves it when I shudder. But it was the way he said it. Like it aroused him so much. I loved it. I made me both blush and drip.

Compliment.

I was once given an awesome compliment from Phonesexman. He said I was a sweater girl. I was very confused by that. When I asked for him to explain he told me that I am that type of girl that everyone looks past, that I don't pop out. But if someone takes a moment to know me they find that I am amazing. That I am a sex goddess, funny, smart and sweet. It was so touching.

I am have been feeling lately like my two world are colliding. My kinky world and my vanilla world. Its like one group is so understanding of difference and one is not. grr...

Orgy!

So I love orgies. More on this to come.

Not big enough.

This is one picture in a series that I really like. Sadly this is a TINY picture. Which really makes me sad. I am going to look out for a better picture. I like the helplessness of this picture. The rope tie is both pretty and functional. I like that she is both dressed and so exposed in the now very open kimono. Her head tilted to the side in that begging way, wanting it so much and yet not. I love how she is so open to his hands. How he is just reaching out and taking what he wants. In short I want this picture to happen to me. 

The trip to the family starts soon.

Will I be able to keep my mouth shut about my kink. Its something that is so me now and makes me so very happy. But I have so much worry attached to it.

Hot.

the whole point of being in charge

is not making her feel like a slut

it’s not about you fucking her dirty

beyond words

and all she gets to look back at

is a black soul

it’s about fucking her dirty

making her feel like a slut

and making her love

every single dirty

moment of it

because in your hands

she’s never felt

as beautiful

or as wanted.